Week 12

One of the main things we talked about this week was divorce and reasons for divorce. We also talked about steps to divorce and other things but I'm going to focus on reasons for divorce. I thought it was interesting how it was brought up that a women would divorce her husband if he hit her, but what constitutes hitting? He playfully wrestled you down to the ground, he playfully slapped your arm, he jokingly punched your leg...but when does it become too much? Where does the aggression line get drawn? I believe the couple needs to discuss their boundaries. If I am ever hit and you are angry, yelling, or have a raised voice, it it completely inappropriate. Another reason is adultery. My sister and I have discussed if our husbands were to cheat on us, would we leave them? Before we were married/engaged we said yes! But now she's married and in love with two beautiful babies and I'm on my way to being married as well and our answers have changed. Understanding now how in love you can be with someone, how committed and devoted and then throwing the fact that you have children together in the mix? This changes everything. I feel that I would be much more inclined to go to counseling, see our bishop and do everything we can to forgive and forget. I would need his promise to never do it again, but I would need to know what I could do to help prevent it as well. Was I neglecting his sexual needs? The intimacy needed for our marriage to work. was it thriving or diminishing? I have a new respect for women who don't leave their husbands if they cheat, it must be a lot harder than it sounds...